After I chose to shut down Noodlehead Marketing, us team members concluded one of the most valuable ideas from our journey was the IDEMA framework. As a result of this conclusion we agreed to package and publish it so we could take and use it in our future ventures. It was our parting gift to each other, our clients, and our friends.
Unfortunately, the reality of my decision to shut down the company was destabilizing and I fell into a deep depression and severe anxiety. The years of emotions for everything I had gone through in the Noodlehead journey poured out of me like a flash flood, and there was nothing I could do to stop it. For three months, I faced numerous unexpected episodes of fear induced panic. It was the darkest season of my life
, and I struggled for three months just trying to sleep and eat.
By God's grace and the support of friends, family and our church, I was able to move out of this valley of darkness and end the company well. But, we did not package and publish IDEMA like we had intended. Now focused on providing for my family, IDEMA was pushed to the back burner.
The first year of freelancing in 2014
was an unexpected success as people I knew contracted my services to help them solve their organizational & marketing problems. IDEMA was something I used to help me organize these initiatives. In 2015
, IDEMA became more prominent in the work I did, and I realized IDEMA's incompleteness during this time.
We needed to finish what we had started by packaging and publishing IDEMA. This would create a foundation for anyone to use, share and teach IDEMA. With the help of two of our past team members and a few new friends, we've brought IDEMA framework to the world.
March 31st 2014 was the last day of Noodlehead.
Two years later, and we've now officially launched this important idea. It is our highly valuable gift to you.
Every year, our church hosts its services at the park for Easter Sunday. (If you're looking for a service on Easter this year, consider attending March 27th)
Last year I had the wonderful opportunity to serve as a parking attendant. Part of this included helping carry guest's food and stuff to their destinations and an offer to park their vehicle in the larger lot.
After the experience, I recognized an interesting pattern of how people responded to my offer for help.
Some of the people I offered to help actively resisted it. In many of these cases, they clearly needed the help, but they adamantly declined while they were dropping things and struggling with their children. Seeing the difficulty, I'd offer multiple times to help, but many were firmly committed to do it themselves. I found this draining and demoralizing for me as the one offering the help. As a result, they left a negative and memorable impression on me. While I disliked helping these people, I knew they still needed to be served and loved.
The second pattern I noticed was the group of people who accepted my help, but were fairly apathetic about me helping them. When I offered to help, they looked at me like a deer in the headlights. They said yes without much emotion or excitement, and I quickly forgot about them.
The third pattern I noticed were the people who accepted and embraced my offer to serve them. The more I helped them, the more excited they were to receive. They expressed their gratitude and were happy for the help. The more excited they got, the more I wanted to serve them. Their response and my immediate impact in making their lives better was energizing. These were positive & memorable moments, unlike my experience of those who resisted.
The next time someone offers to help you or give you a gift, which way will you respond? Will you resist, be apathetic or genuinely embrace it?
Thanks to my parents, I've been involved in different denominations and sizes of churches since I was born. I've also discovered the church has lacked in their potential to truly connect their powerful, but digitally neglected , content with their people in a personal and relevant way.
Churches are usually focused on the next Sunday service and tend to devalue the past messages. Since churches are busy with this focus, I thought I'd make it easy for them by pointing out the problems. By illuminating these problems, the church can take the steps towards resolving them. They can then help the body of Christ where they need it and when it matters most.
Here are the top three problems I see with church members accessing content online to help "bring them along
When we find ourselves resisting those leading us, let us direct our leaders with this one statement.
"Please, bring me along."
Instead of saying yes out of compliance or no out of reaction, ask to be brought along. Expect our leader to teach us what they know.
One of three things will happen. They will share what what they know and with our new found understanding, we'll want to follow their lead. Or, we will present what we know and they will realize why we're resisting and address the issue.
The third option is neither of us are brought along. At that point, we have to decide if the directive is a pothole
(not preferred, but can move forward), or a roadblock
(will not move forward until addressed) to determine how we proceed.
Helping a friend, family member or stranger go from where they are to where they want to be can be difficult and require a ton of energy. Heck, it could be hard to do this for ourselves!
Instead of facing this resistance, get clear on the vision
and help by mapping out the numerous micro-steps along the way. The smaller the steps, the easier it is to move forward.
It's best we check our intentions before we start since trust is key here. If we aren't trustworthy or lose it along the way, we might find ourselves back where we started.