Road Hazards Of Life: Roadblocks & Potholes

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For those of us who drive, we have come across potholes in the road. When we hit these potholes, they disrupt us. Sometimes we may spill our drink or drop something. Other times it's just hard on our vehicle and tires. In most cases, potholes jostle us as we move forward, but they do not stop us from moving forward.

Potholes are obstacles in our path we can drive through without having to resolve them. 

When we are driving there is another obstacle we come across in our journey, the roadblock. When we meet a roadblock we are unable to go forward. In theses cases, we must wait until the roadblock is removed or find another way to travel to our destination.

Roadblocks are obstacles in our path we cannot drive through unless we resolve them.

So, how does this apply in our lives?
 
Imagine we have written a blog post to be published in a few hours. It's not perfect yet, but we are willing to publish it. This would be a pothole. It's not ideal, but it won't keep us from going forward.

Imagine we are building a website for a client and we need the content for the website before we can move forward. In this scenario, not having the content has become a roadblock

Let's apply this to a more serious scenario. 
 
Imagine we are working on a marketing project. Our boss asks us, while planning out this project, to use a false testimonial for the project. For some of us it may be something we are not willing to do, a roadblock. For others, we may not want to do it but we will. This would make it a pothole.
 
The next time we run into an obstacle, we can now ask ourselves, is this a pothole (I don't like it but I will go forward) or a roadblock (I will not go forward unless we resolve it)?

What pothole or roadblock are you facing now?
Meeting The Need [For Advice For Good]

Meeting The Need [For Advice For Good]

As a 29-year-old, it’s great to know there is still a place where being miscalculated as a high school student is possible. Last week, I volunteered at the Atlanta Food Bank and I unexpectedly learned what it’s like to live in the Middle East. It turned out my day volunteering would parallel a fellow volunteer’s journey to this region. 
 
Before I share how the connection happened, let me rewind.
 
I recently decided to walk away from our marketing company. As a part of this transition, I sought community and mentoring to help guide me through this transition.
 
Over the years, I have stayed connected with Jeff Hilimire. Jeff Hilimire is the owner of a company called DragonArmy, and he was someone who came to mind as I sought counsel. Well it seems, there are others who see Jeff as an approachable person and so he came up with a neat idea called ‘Pay it Forward’. The idea being, when I agreed to meet with Jeff, I committed to volunteering at least one hour of my time to help others. In addition, I agreed to write about my experience.
 
With the intent to go outside of my comfort zone, I asked Jeff if he would recommend a place I could serve. He mentioned the Atlanta Community Food Bank had a need for volunteers and he recommended I serve there. After our time together, I went online and signed up to volunteer in the program called ‘Kids In Need’.
 
Kid’s in Need is a program of the Atlanta Community Food Bank, and they aim to provide a free store for educators to supply their classrooms with the tools for academic success. My volunteer position was to help load the supplies received by the teachers into their vehicles.
 
The day came and I drove down there about an hour early. By being early, it allowed me time to talk with the staff, learn about their mission and fill out paperwork. It also opened up opportunities for me to help and engage with the volunteers while we waited for the teachers to arrive.
 
One such opportunity was talking with a woman who, I came to find out, worked with the United States Government over the past 6 years. While working, she spent most of her time in Dubai and Iraq. With limited experience out of America, I decided to take this opportunity to learn. I proceeded to ask her about her perspective after being overseas.
 
I first asked her what it was like returning to the states and what her perspective of our country was. She proceeded to share how much she realized we, in America, take for granted. Being incubated in our country, there are so many little things in life we have access to that most of the world does not. She also shared how in America, we are busy and we work at a breakneck pace. In these other areas of the world, they take their time and focus more on what is in front of them.
 
This was compelling, but I wanted to learn the other side of the coin. I flipped the question around to expand my perspective and I proceeded to ask her what does America value compared to this region. Her first response was our value for the family. In America, we value and cherish family in a way they do not. In those parts of the country, she experienced how they would abandon or sell a family member with little or no hesitation. I asked her about the difference between the two worlds when it comes to generosity. She said we are much more generous than what she experienced from these areas of the world.  We give, help the poor and they tend to do the opposite.
 
It was humbling to learn how much we take for granted and how rushed we are in our culture. It was also reassuring to know our value for family, generosity and helping others was a strong point in our culture. As she shared, she said there was no way for us to understand and feel what it was like without experiencing it for ourselves. 
 
This made me think about what I was doing volunteering with Kids In Need. Before Jeff connected me with the Atlanta Food Bank, I had a limited understanding of the need our city had in this area. People in our community need help to survive, and teachers need materials and supplies to teach their students. The need is big, and being in this season of transition allowed me to slow down to such a level I could see what was going on around me.
 
As I loaded the cars, I asked teachers their names, what they taught and why they taught. I met teachers from all grades and subjects as I loaded cars with school supplies. I was contributing to the bigger picture. My commitment to volunteer was a profound analogy of how busy my life had gotten, and how little I appreciated the little things in life. By volunteering, it helped me to cherish my commitment to family, generosity and helping others.
 
I challenge you, go outside your comfort zone and consider volunteering. Find an organization like the Atlanta Community Food Bank and try it out. It just might change you.

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April 16th - Weekly Content Roundup

Latest blog post: The 'Splinter Effect': Wounds, Pain & Healing | Question of the week

I am currently reading The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino.

Here is the best content I consumed this past week...

Best In Business

Have you been to this meeting?

"Just because you have a budget doesn't mean you ought to be hiring people for the project."

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Suicidal crickets, zombie roaches and other parasite tales

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"Shaunti spent three years interviewing and surveying 1,000 couples to uncover the most important habits of the most happily married couples – what are they doing differently, that they may not even realize is making them so happy, that others can replicate? This clip reveals 3 of the 12 habits that most highly happy couples share, regardless of age or racial background or any other factor – little things that they are doing that many other couples (even those in pretty good marriages) may not do. The actions and attitudes that create great marriages hold many lessons for many other relationships as well."

Best In Faith

Video: God's Not Dead - Vince Vitale

"Is God dead? Not in academia. As someone who teaches philosophy at Wycliffe Hall, University of Oxford, Vince Vitale is well placed to know what the top scholarship says about God. Vince shows how in the fields of philosophy and sociology, God is very much alive. If you think intellectual objections undermine belief in God, Vince suggests that you may be unaware of the arguments at the highest level."

The Way to Permanent Faith

"We will be scattered, not into service but into the emptiness of our lives where we will see ruin and barrenness, to know what internal death to God’s blessings means. Are we prepared for this?"

Audio: IS FAITH DELUSIONAL?

If you’re looking for a way to prove God’s existence to a skeptic, there’s no better evidence than God himself. Ravi gives us some examples today in the continuation of his message “Is Faith Delusional?”

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The reason many of us stop praying and become hard toward God is that we only have an emotional interest in prayer. It sounds good to say that we pray, and we read books on prayer which tell us that prayer is beneficial— that our minds are quieted and our souls are uplifted when we pray.

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The 3 Most Popular Blog Posts of 2014, First Quarter.

These three blog posts are the most popular blog posts from January 1st to March 31st 2014.

Mountain or Valley

FAITH

Hills & Valleys

"Last year I went through a season of, I would describe as, being on the mountain top with God. Once I got to the top, I took another step, and I fell off and into the valley of darkness. This is the valley I am walking in now. I am grateful, I have not had to walk it alone. I keep moving, and I keep walking."

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*Image Courtesy of Keith Taylor Photography

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

The Worm Story

"These worms may represent experiences, pain, bad habits, problems, secrets, or sin. When we allow worms to live in our lives, they grow and reproduce. This leads to more pain and hurt for ourselves and others."

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LEADERSHIP

Push or Pull? An Insight To Leading People

"When we push people to move forward, we establish resistance. If instead of pushing, we choose to open up, invite others and move forward, they are more likely to willingly follow."

The 'Splinter Effect': Wounds, Pain & Healing

The 'Splinter Effect': Wounds, Pain & Healing

Most of us have been punctured by an actual wood splinter in our life. I know, I have had many. 
 
Splinters seem irrationally painful. Something so small causes us so much pain
 
A splinter is a source of pain in our life. This splinter could be a bad relationship, work situation, or an event in our past. It is something that has made its way into our life and is continually causing pain, not allowing us to heal.
 
Removing a splinter is not easy. Being small, it requires precision and likely tweezers of some kind to remove. Usually, if we have allowed a splinter to stay in our life for an extended period, it's because we don't know how to remove it or we are unwilling to do so. Our unwillingness may stem from fear, pride, or shame.
 
Once we are able to remove the splinter we have made a huge step towards recovery. Our wound cannot heal when the source of it is still there.
 
Two beautiful things happen when we remove the splinters of our lives.
 
First, we can see the wound, or in other words, the gap that has been left in us. I recently decided to shut down our marketing company. It left several splinters in me and by removing it, I saw the gaps in myself, my marriage and my relationship with God. It wasn't until I let it go, was I able to see this.
 
Second, we can begin to heal. Healing takes time and is best done with others. At first we may be ultra sensitive, but as we heal we are able to handle more. By walking away from our company, I have been able to work through issues I never knew I had.
 
Once we have healed we may have a scar, but it can serve as a reminder of the growth we experienced through the pain and healing we received. 
 
Unfortunately, we will all experience these splinters in our lives. What matters most is how we decide to respond.
 
What pain in your life is being caused by splinters?

April 9th - Weekly Content Roundup

Latest blog post: Interfaces: The Ways We Work Together | Question of the week

I am currently reading The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino.

Here is the best content I consumed this past week...

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7 Creative Proofreading Tips To Transform Your Jaggedy Draft into a Polished Post

"We take for granted that the blog posts we interact with or spread around online make sense to us. Even if we disagree with a blog post’s author or misconstrue his intentions, we have still comprehended the text well enough to form an opinion about it."

Best In Marketing

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Interfaces: The Ways We Work Together

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So, there I was in the Arby's drive through lane. My radio was on, and the heater was blasting. My wife loves Arby's, and let's just say it is not the fast food restaurant I prefer. One day, she asked me to go to Arby's to get her Jalapeno Poppers and a Dr. Pepper. As I was ordering, I had a hard time hearing since the intercom was full of static. I figured, I had such a small order there would be no way they would get it wrong. I drove up to the window, and they handed me my order. 

As I drove off, I realized they did not give me a drink. I thought the order must have been wrong and so I drove back to correct it. Looking at my receipt, I saw the order was for chicken fingers. I had ordered a Dr. Pepper and Jalapeno Popper, so now I am wondering how I ended up with Chicken fingers. I went inside and after 15 minutes we resolved the discrepancy and I finally got what I ordered.

This is the Chaos Interface.
 
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I was in chaos while I ordered, and the store had their own chaos in taking the order. For us both to get what we wanted out of the situation, it required additional effort, time and clarity as we sorted through our chaos. All of which, could have been avoided if we had not been in chaos. When we are not intentional while working with others, the chaos interface is the one we tend to fall into. 

Now, one of my favorite fast food restaurants is Chick-Fil-A. They have great food, service and ordering processes. 

When I go, I ask for the Spicy Chicken Sandwich with pepper jack and no pickles. While ordering, they ask me if I want the meal or just the sandwich. I let them know I would like the meal. They then ask me what I would like to drink, and I say I want a Coke. They then ask me if there are any condiments I would like with my meal, and I say Buffalo sauce. They let me how much my order will cost, and I proceed towards the payment window. 

This is the Filter Interface.
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Chick-Fil-A has a process and regardless of my awareness or understanding of it, they lead me through it. They take me from my temporary state of chaos and put me into their state of order. In this transition, I choose to yield to their ordering process for a temporary amount of time so I can get my food. The filter interface is where one party has a clear process and they lead a guest through it. 

Now, after going to Chick-Fil-A regularly, I have learned their process. I know how they are going to take my order and it allows me to pro-actively give them the results their process generates. So now when I order, I say I would like a #3 with pepper jack cheese and no pickle. I will make it a meal with a coke. I would like Buffalo sauce and that will be all for my order. I say "thank you", and they say "my pleasure". I then begin driving towards the payment window.

This is the Direct Interface. 
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The direct interface is when both parties are using the same process and definitions of words. When we operate in the direct interface we are exponentially more productive as the result of eliminated waste. 

The beauty of this productivity is not the time we save, but the time we can now use in building relationships with our team and clients. I believe we ought to be more productive at our work so we can give more time to people.

In your work, what interface do you operate in?

April 2nd - Weekly Content Roundup

Latest blog post: Life & Water - Proactive or Reactive? | Question of the week

I am currently reading The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino.

Here is the best content I consumed this past week...

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"A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?"

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"We’ve experimented with lots of different content marketing methods at Buffer, so I wanted to share with you 9 of the best ways we’ve found to increase engagement and improve your content strategy."

How to crowdfund (and win.)

"Crowdfunding is a great way to raise funds for your next project, idea, start up, charity, or cause. But despite what many think, crowdfunding is not found money."

Best In Stories

"Starting in 2007, we set out to create a company we believed would take us towards our dreams & passions. Instead of arriving there, we arrived in a place of survival and isolation. Once we realized we had been going the wrong direction, we stopped and altered our course. We then set out to create a thriving company with purpose striving towards a unified vision. As we arrived at this vision internally, it led to an unexpected year of release where we would eventually let the company go. We share our story because we believe it will inspire others towards intentionality. This is our story..."

Best In Science

Hypernaturalism: Integrating the Bible and Science

"Though the views of naturalism and supernaturalism often pit science and religion against one another, hypernaturalism is proposed as an alternative that combines divine power and natural law. It is hoped that such a synthesis of science and faith can help religious people become more accepting of science, and place Christianity in a logical framework that the scientifically minded can accept."

Best In Faith

The Flood - Noah - A Deeper Look

"The March 28 release of the much-anticipated film Noah provides an opportunity to discuss the plausibility of such an event from a scientific and biblical perspective. What most people have heard or read about Noah and the ark from childhood storybooks onward strikes them as utterly preposterous. Not only does the story seem to contradict multiple disciplines of science, but it also seems to contradict the Christian doctrine of an all-knowing, all-loving God. With that in mind, RTB has dedicated a page of resources to help foster positive, respectful dialogue with truth seekers."

Being an Example of His Message

"As His disciples, our lives must be a holy example of the reality of our message. Even the natural heart of the unsaved will serve if called upon to do so, but it takes a heart broken by conviction of sin, baptized by the Holy Spirit, and crushed into submission to God’s purpose to make a person’s life a holy example of God’s message."

Best In Relationships

Five Communication Mistakes Almost Every Couple Makes

"No matter how in tune you are with your partner, misunderstandings and communication gaffes are always possible. Here are five of the most common, yet avoidable communication mistakes that could harm a relationship."

Best In Happy

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