Three Ways We Can Respond To Those Who Offer Their Help
Every year, our former church hosts its services at the park for Easter Sunday.
In 2015, I had the wonderful opportunity to serve as a parking attendant. Part of this included helping carry guest's food and stuff to their destinations and an offer to park their vehicle in the larger lot.
After the experience, I recognized an interesting pattern of how people responded to my offer for help.
Some of the people I offered to help actively resisted it. In many of these cases, they clearly needed the help, but they adamantly declined while they were dropping things and struggling with their children. Seeing the difficulty, I'd offer multiple times to help, but many were firmly committed to doing it themselves. I found this draining and demoralizing for me as the one offering the help. As a result, they left a negative and memorable impression on me. While I disliked helping these people, I knew they still needed to be served and loved.
The second pattern I noticed was the group of people who accepted my help but were fairly apathetic about me helping them. When I offered to help, they looked at me like a deer in the headlights. They said yes without much emotion or excitement, and I quickly forgot about them.
The third pattern I noticed were the people who accepted and embraced my offer to serve them. The more I helped them, the more excited they were to receive. They expressed their gratitude and were happy for the help. The more excited they got, the more I wanted to serve them. Their response and my immediate impact in making their lives better were energizing. These were positive & memorable moments, unlike my experience of those who resisted.
The next time someone offers to help you or give you a gift, which way will you respond? Will you resist, be apathetic or genuinely embrace it?
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