Thanks to my parents, I've been involved in different denominations and sizes of churches since I was born. I've also discovered the church has lacked in their potential to truly connect their powerful, but digitally neglected , content with their people in a personal and relevant way.
When we find ourselves resisting those leading us, let us direct our leaders with this one statement.
"Please, bring me along."
Helping a friend, family member or stranger go from where they are to where they want to be can be difficult and require a ton of energy. Heck, it could be hard to do this for ourselves!
The Iceberg effect is a visual metaphor to help us more realistically face life and work.
Any time we face a project, relationship, friend, employee, church, or anything, the top of the iceberg is what we can immediately see.
For example, when watching a political presidential debate we see the top of the iceberg for the candidates we're interested in supporting.
When we start a new project, we think it will only take 2 weeks, when in reality it's a 2 month long project.
When we have experience in a particular area, we visualize what the iceberg looks below the tip of the iceberg. While we don't know for sure, we can reasonably anticipate the unknowns that are likely and unlikely to happen. This helps us better anticipate the successes and failures we'll face.
No matter how experienced and knowledgeable we are, we will inevitably face the unexpected unknowns in life, work and projects. It's the deep abyss with no end. It could be something or it could be nothing.
In 2001, numerous New York companies planned for what they knew and what they expected could happen to mitigate their risk and maximize their chances of success. At the end of the day, they did not expect a group of terrorists to attack the world trade towers and change their entire lives.
It is wise for us to plan for what we know, what we anticipate and a little extra for for the complete unknown. Outside of this, it requires we trust in something more powerful than the unanticipated unknowns.
For me, I choose to trust in God. How about you?
As a freelancer, there are times when we need to generate income immediately. In red alert mode, we need to move quickly to get paying gigs. Ideally, we discover what to do in red alert mode before it happens, but for those of you who are in this zone now, here are ten actions to help you move forward and suppress the panic.
- Since God knows and is in control, anchor yourself by praying for direction.
- Meet with 10-12 people per week, ranging from good friends to people you hardly know, and ask for advice.
- Call past clients and leads to discover if they have any needs you can help with.
- Reach out to people who have referred work your way in the past and let them know your situation and how they can help.
- Keep your inner circle updated on your situation and how they can help you overcome it. Be specific with what you need.
- Attend 2-3 networking events where you can meet numerous people in a short period of time.
- Get exposed on-line by sharing articles, content and ideas on Facebook, Linkedin and Twitter.
- Blog daily and share links to your blogs with your network. (If you don't have a site signup for a free account on Medium or Wordpress)
- Offer to write a blog for those in your network who have platforms and an audience.
- Slow the bleeding by taking odd jobs, research study groups, or becoming an extra in a feature film.
I've noticed an intrinsic human pattern of four fundamental desires in each of us.
The first is our desire to survive. It's quite simple, we don't want to die. In America, we're definitely insulated from what it truly means to survive, so survival for us is being healthy enough to work so we can generate enough income to pay our bills.
Growing up, I was taught to take a day of the week to rest, release and worship God. For Christians, we call this the Sabbath day. It's so important, it was given as one of the ten commandments to Moses.
"Remember The Sabbath, and Keep It Holy"
Last night, we visited my great grandmother Maude Plunkett after my wife was compelled to go. All 5 of us loaded into the van, and we spent an hour holding her hand and standing beside her.
A few hours later, she died.
We were blessed with the opportunity to see her one last time, in this natural life. We now anticipate the moment when we too will join her in the presence of the almighty.
In the photo above, Maude is seen with our daughter Madison. There is a one hundred and three year difference in age.
While she had an impact on many, she left a powerful legacy in our lives.
- If she had not been born 110 years ago, I would not exist, nor would her children, grandchildren, other great grandchildren, and numerous great-great grandchildren.
- She lived in Atlanta where her wonderful daughter, Judy Kreklow, took great care of her. Her son also lived down the street. If it were not for them, I would never had visited Atlanta in 2004.
- If it were not for their presence in Atlanta, it would be unlikely that Cait & I would have moved to Atlanta in 2005!
Within a year of us moving to Atlanta, Great Grandma turned 100. This celebration is captured in the photo below.
Moving across the country, Cait and I felt as if we were on our own in the first several years in Atlanta. Judy & Great Grandma's house was a sanctuary for me. It was a safe place I could go to escape the difficulties of life and not feel the need to perform or be anything.
I could just be me.
Great grandma would have been 110 on this upcoming February 16th. Interesting enough, her 110th birthday is the due date of our fourth child, Elihu. While grandma endured much suffering in her final moments of life, it is the words of Elihu, from the Bible, that illuminates her inspiring example of enduring this suffering. Elihu had this to say the following about the matter.
"We are [righteous] with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are." - Paul the Apostle.
Through her relationship with Jesus Christ, my great grandmother Maude Plunkett was found righteous before God and now lives in harmony with Him in heaven.
For this reason, we celebrate her passing and new life!
Here's a simple mindset that helps me help my clients.